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Write vows
that hit different.
No cringe. No clichés. Just words that actually sound like you.
Writing your own vows can feel terrifying. But here's the thing — the best vows aren't polished speeches. They're honest, they're real, and they make people feel something.
I've heard hundreds of vows. The ones that land? They're always the personal ones. So here's my guide to help you write vows that are 100% you. (Want even more detail? Read my full blog post on how to write wedding vows that actually sound like you.)
Start with why
Why this person? What is it about them that makes you want to stand up in front of everyone and commit to forever? Start there. Write messy. Don't edit yet.
Get specific
The details are where the magic is. Not "you're kind" but "the way you always make me a cup of tea when I've had a rubbish day, without me even asking." That's the stuff.
Make a promise
Vows are literally promises. What are you committing to? It can be big ("I'll always be your safe place") or small ("I promise to never judge your 2am snack choices").
Keep it short
Aim for 1–2 minutes. That's roughly 200–300 words. Anything longer and you'll lose people (and probably yourself). Quality over quantity, always.
Read it out loud
If it doesn't sound like something you'd actually say to your partner, rewrite it. Your vows should sound like you talking, not a Hallmark card.
Stuck? Try these prompts
I knew you were the one when...
My favourite thing about us is...
I promise to always...
You make me feel...
I can't wait to...
The thing nobody knows about you is...
One last thing
Don't stress about making each other cry. The goal isn't tears — it's truth. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and the rest will take care of itself.
And if you want help? That's literally what I'm here for.
Video guide coming soon — $10 to access when it drops next month.